What good schools and well thought quotas have in common? Both teach your child a very important life skill: reflection. Kids are naturally impulsive. Learn to think before making a decision - learning to think in elections, alternatives and consequences - is a great skill for children to learn. Stanley Greenspan, MD, a psychiatrist of the nation's leading children, said that children who develop the ability to think in terms of choice and the consequences are likely to become teenagers and adults who "can not resolve problems and evaluate their own impulses and desires. adolescents and adults who never develop this skill are "limited to their immediate and often impulsive reactions to events."
What do we mean by a "well thought out performance?" It has been our experience that many parents simply Have not idea when it comes to allocating their children. They do not know where to start, how much to give, or what is the purpose of compensation in the first place.
Since returning to school time is rapidly approaching, here are the answers to the four most common questions we get older units.
Q: When should you start giving your kids an allowance?
: There is no magic age. Start when your child is interested in the compensation money and use it to buy things. This is usually around the age of six. But if you have older children already receive compensation in the house, do not be surprised if five years to claim compensation. Why your help the first child, watch the piggy Choice Award recognizes the parents, which has four bedrooms and four transparent slot, labeled Save, spend, invest and donate.
Q: How much more?
A: Although there is no ideal age, there are a lot of magic! Compensation should be enough to get your child the opportunity - and responsibility - to pay for some of the things you've been buying the past. Keep track of what you spend for your child. Next, determine which elements will remain responsible and whose expenses you want to cover the damages. Here's a simple example. His six years is really in Yu-Gi-Oh and allowance tracking shows that you are setting up $ 4 a week on average from Dark Super Cards. We suggest you start with him a $ 5 per week. Fifty cents offers and fifty cents for charity. The remaining four can spend as it sees fit during the week, but says he does not buy Yu-Gi-Oh! More cards.
Q: How long a period should cover?
A: When you start, give the allowances. As the child grows, increasing both the amount of compensation to be more responsible for his son, and the period during which covers compensation. If your child is a weekly allowance to manage responsibly, trying to extend to two weeks, after a month at a time when your child is a teenager. And be consistent. A recent survey of school children of Chicago have found that their biggest complaint about the benefits is not the quantity or frequency, was the failure of parents consistently allocation.
Q: Any specific suggestions for teens?
: Sure. As children get older, try a clothing allowance. At the beginning of each semester, work on a reasonable budget clothing and let your child choose his clothes. The clothing is a huge symbolic importance for young people, and although they can be fiscally responsible for other lives, they can easily blow up the whole month clothing allowance. A separate clothing allowance to avoid this, and also gives you the ability to manage something that is of great importance in their lives. Let the children with clothing allowance, which covers the clothes they need for a semester at school. Specify what types of clothes clothing allowance school, after school, clothes, party clothes, etc. Try to let your child have autonomy as possible to buy clothes. If your school requires uniforms, you may want to buy school clothes for her clothes and give assistance after the school uniform.
Back to school is a time for new ideas. The use of a subsidy to help their children learn to think of the reflectivity can be a constructive idea to his new family.
It has created a situation in which we learn to think reflectively: "If I spend $ 4 on a toy at the pharmacy or Yu-Gi-Oh card or should I save for a couple of weeks so I can buy a more powerful Yu- Gi-Oh card? "
The boys, in particular, are usually not interested in formal clothes. If you want the son of fourteen years is a pretty dress to wear formal family meetings, to pay for you and let him use the clothing allowance to buy what he is interested in bringing.
